I swear motherhood is always pulling out these constant surprises. You think you really nailed something being a mom and then bam. You get your kid potty trained and they start having accidents. You sleep train your babes and then all the sudden they are waking up at night. Oh your kids aren’t sick finally… next morning they wake up with a runny nose. You finally found healthy snacks they will eat, and then they don’t like it. Their attitudes change over night, and something that worked yesterday just doesn’t always keep working.
I swear there have been several times in motherhood where I am thinking to myself “how the heck did I raise such a patient, kind, and loving little human”, but as I’m sure you can image there have been bipolar opposite thoughts as well. Our recent move brought up a lot of those negative confused thoughts.
Dekker has always been my little sweetheart that is very emotional. I knew the move would be hard on him, but we had done it so often I knew it would be okay. After a couple weeks of moving and him confused I was seeing this side I honestly had never seen before. There is a difference than your kids whining and saying no to you, as oppose to them blatantly saying a hard NO. I remember the first time I asked him to do something in the transition of our move, and he blatantly said no. I was sooo caught off guard because he didn’t ever really do that. Obviously my kid has said no, thrown fits, and has had an attitude but it was unlike anything I had seen from him ever. He started to do this behavior a lot, and I was so worried. Was this just the fabulous four stage he was in.. as my mom called it with me “the fucking fours”?! Was he seeing this behavior somewhere we had been since moving and thought it was okay?! I was so lost. I caught myself being so worried that I was doing something wrong and that I was failing, and that all these moves were finally catching up to him.
Being a mom is HARD. There are so many moments where we are exhausted, confused, and just drained and even sometimes not knowing which direction to go in. These moments definitely don’t last forever, but every mom has been there and felt defeated. I kept doing things like we previously had, and tried my best to make time for just him and I. Overnight this kid was totally his normal self after adjusting to our new home. I guess motherhood just had to pull my strings a little bit and test me and it sure did. I’m happy my sweet and joyful little boy is loving his new home so much, and we were able to navigate this together.
These moments in motherhood come in all different forms as your kids get older. You definitely don’t stand alone in the feeling of being defeated, exhausted, or overwhelmed.